I just went to the 3d 2n course at Johore. It was a mind terrifying and horrible experience for me but it was also the most learned seminar for me. Perhaps he has instilled fear in all of us which made mi more fearful of him and would listen to his comments and etc. Throughtout this seminar, i have learned many things from him. I felt the lost of my family, the need to fight and struggle everyday.
i have learned to become an extraordinary person. In order to be extraordinary, u nid to do things that are different from others. U need to be a leader and make swift decisions and always think of solutions to solve yours problems.
i have also learned to let go of my past and move forward, in this way only i can progress to my achievements and goals that i want to achieve. i have learned many theories and have not yet posted in the computer for future referencing.
today i would give a brief note of wat i learned and would not go so detailed abt what i have actually learned from there. This is because there are so many things to say and simply a blog will not be able to finish everything so swiftly.
Today i have finished something. And i would be doing mos of all e things i wanted to do...This is because i want to achieve my goals and targets.....for e society and the 6 most impt areas of my life....
I shall go into dept abt what i learned in the course in e due days to come.... love my family, friends bro and sisters and most imptly of all..my beloved kawikawi and granny
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Monday, April 14, 2008
1st day of resurrection
Today, i shall quote from anything from the books i have learnt, but today i will just share some of the inner feelings from my heart.
Today, i shall resume my goal setting which i had left it in discard since March. I shall start planning my programs later on. Still got 2 things to do before departing to my beloved Sui Mak Mak house for our lovable movie session.
That time, i realised i have lost alot of opportunity with leng and von. It is becoz i did a very poor presentation and was really damn ill-prepared. I was considered lucky that leng would still buy the insurance policy from me. Given outside ppl, i dun tink anyone wld wanna buy any insurance frm me liao lor. However, i have learnt from my mistake, no matter hw big or hw small a client is, i must be prepared at least 3 days in advance so that my client can have a better understanding and i can have more confidence in my speech as well. From leng exp, i missed One case from yvonne. It was really a pity. But i told myself, i will not repeat the same mistake again and would do a better presentation each time i meet up with a prospect. Thank you leng and von....i will do my best to serve you.
Next, i would like to keep up with my goal setting because i have been quite slack with it. I still have a wager with lim ker yen and i wld not wanna lose it. I will replan everything later on and plan my strategy well. With a well-planned strategy, i am sure to achieve my goals and targets for as long as you believe in it.
Today, i would like to share on the experience i had in changi hpsital lately, because Kawi kawi's dad got a "Er Sui Bu Ping Heng" and was feeling really very dizzy and keep vomiting. Kawi kawi and I was really worried. As a result, We brought him to e hospital and consult a doctor. the moment when my kawikawi, told us that e doc diagnosed that Micheal may suffer frm mild stroke and needed to be warded for observation, all of us were stunned. For that time, all of us did not knew wch hospital ward is suitable and all were so loss. At 1st, i thought it was gonna be very serious therefore i suggested to take e b1 ward as it may take very long. Luckily, it turned out to be a quite a minor case. The bills come up to $300 plus just for consuiltation and warded for one day and i finally felt e importance of SHP and total shield. Imagine with just having this 2 policy combined, U nid not worry abt admitting into hospital shld anything bad to happen upon ya. I have seen the importance of insurance and i would use this to tell to my clients the importance of the insurance. I can finally understand y so many ppl wun wanna go for better doctor due to e lack of funds and i tink insurance is the better way out as it is cheaper. There are many ppl who thinks that insurance is just a waste of money but when u expectedley faced an unfortunate incident, u wld really see e importance in it. I told myself, i will sell SHP and Total shield as my main priority.
That day, i was glad i went to attend MR Jian Hong seminar. I learned a great deal of things from him and would share the things i learned frm him the next session. Heehee, i got to rush and settle my stuffs fast!!! gopt a movie to catch!!! LOve Family, Kawikawi!!!! Friends and Clients!!
Today, i shall resume my goal setting which i had left it in discard since March. I shall start planning my programs later on. Still got 2 things to do before departing to my beloved Sui Mak Mak house for our lovable movie session.
That time, i realised i have lost alot of opportunity with leng and von. It is becoz i did a very poor presentation and was really damn ill-prepared. I was considered lucky that leng would still buy the insurance policy from me. Given outside ppl, i dun tink anyone wld wanna buy any insurance frm me liao lor. However, i have learnt from my mistake, no matter hw big or hw small a client is, i must be prepared at least 3 days in advance so that my client can have a better understanding and i can have more confidence in my speech as well. From leng exp, i missed One case from yvonne. It was really a pity. But i told myself, i will not repeat the same mistake again and would do a better presentation each time i meet up with a prospect. Thank you leng and von....i will do my best to serve you.
Next, i would like to keep up with my goal setting because i have been quite slack with it. I still have a wager with lim ker yen and i wld not wanna lose it. I will replan everything later on and plan my strategy well. With a well-planned strategy, i am sure to achieve my goals and targets for as long as you believe in it.
Today, i would like to share on the experience i had in changi hpsital lately, because Kawi kawi's dad got a "Er Sui Bu Ping Heng" and was feeling really very dizzy and keep vomiting. Kawi kawi and I was really worried. As a result, We brought him to e hospital and consult a doctor. the moment when my kawikawi, told us that e doc diagnosed that Micheal may suffer frm mild stroke and needed to be warded for observation, all of us were stunned. For that time, all of us did not knew wch hospital ward is suitable and all were so loss. At 1st, i thought it was gonna be very serious therefore i suggested to take e b1 ward as it may take very long. Luckily, it turned out to be a quite a minor case. The bills come up to $300 plus just for consuiltation and warded for one day and i finally felt e importance of SHP and total shield. Imagine with just having this 2 policy combined, U nid not worry abt admitting into hospital shld anything bad to happen upon ya. I have seen the importance of insurance and i would use this to tell to my clients the importance of the insurance. I can finally understand y so many ppl wun wanna go for better doctor due to e lack of funds and i tink insurance is the better way out as it is cheaper. There are many ppl who thinks that insurance is just a waste of money but when u expectedley faced an unfortunate incident, u wld really see e importance in it. I told myself, i will sell SHP and Total shield as my main priority.
That day, i was glad i went to attend MR Jian Hong seminar. I learned a great deal of things from him and would share the things i learned frm him the next session. Heehee, i got to rush and settle my stuffs fast!!! gopt a movie to catch!!! LOve Family, Kawikawi!!!! Friends and Clients!!
Thursday, March 20, 2008
A beautiful Quote from Morrie
" So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they are busy doing things they think are important. This is because they are chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and maning."
Adapted From Tuesdays with Morrie
Adapted From Tuesdays with Morrie
Monday, February 18, 2008
Guilt
There are several expressions of unhealthy guilt that a person may feel and i shall list the common ones and i'm sure some will ring a bell for you. Please be gentle with yourself in recognising these within yourself. It is not an invitation for you to criticise yourself and feel more guilt. Rather, it is an invitation for awareness and the connection that you must have with love and free chioce that it affords in you and in others as well. So it is in your best interest to take a look at yourselves a little bit less seriously and perhaps even with a little bit of characteristic humour.
1. One expression of unhealthy guilt is when you say, "I'm overcommitted." Taking on more than any human being can reasonalbly accomplish is a common characteristic of unhealthy guilt. We have too many projects and too much to do and not enough time. It is a cause of stress and is fed by the difficulty that we have in saying no perhaps to our own needs and to other people's expectation of us. Furthermore, over-commitment is an addiction that keeps us anaesthetised to the anxious and empty feelings that will inevitably surface if we are left alone without distractions. So over-commitment is a way for us to avoid our pain. It blocks the process of recovery for us.
2. Another expression is, "I really know how to worry." When you start worrying about even the most common of things, it is basically 'awfulising" a common event. This immediate escalation of any small event into a world class catastrophe is what we talked about when Albert Ellis called it "awfulising". the most amazing feature is that little or no objective evidence is required to come to conclusions of unprecented gloom and doom. This kind of worry is the outer projection of our innermost fear and that of our own distraction. Without the knowledge of love, fear is that remains. We can never feel safe.
3. I often wake up feeling anxious or have periods when i am anxious for days and for weeks. If we are lucky, the anxiety begins after a good night's sleep. If not, it happens in the middle of the night or wakes up early and the mental wheels start to spin. We are ruminating in the past and it starts to take on a life of its own. You start to have conversations with yourself, "If only i has done this." or "If only i didn't do that." Accompanied by worries of future uncertainties, "What if this happens? or "What if that happens?" Our anxiety often masks danger as well. After all the people that we are saving or helping or demonstrating our achievements to, begin to look like our persecutors.
4. "I'm a compulsive helper." The ranks of helping professionals, nurses and therapists and volunteers and committee chairpersons are bulging with the guilty people. In reaching out to toehrs we naturally try and give them the love that we so desperately need ourselves. So if we don't know how to love ourselves, any attempts to love others.
1. One expression of unhealthy guilt is when you say, "I'm overcommitted." Taking on more than any human being can reasonalbly accomplish is a common characteristic of unhealthy guilt. We have too many projects and too much to do and not enough time. It is a cause of stress and is fed by the difficulty that we have in saying no perhaps to our own needs and to other people's expectation of us. Furthermore, over-commitment is an addiction that keeps us anaesthetised to the anxious and empty feelings that will inevitably surface if we are left alone without distractions. So over-commitment is a way for us to avoid our pain. It blocks the process of recovery for us.
2. Another expression is, "I really know how to worry." When you start worrying about even the most common of things, it is basically 'awfulising" a common event. This immediate escalation of any small event into a world class catastrophe is what we talked about when Albert Ellis called it "awfulising". the most amazing feature is that little or no objective evidence is required to come to conclusions of unprecented gloom and doom. This kind of worry is the outer projection of our innermost fear and that of our own distraction. Without the knowledge of love, fear is that remains. We can never feel safe.
3. I often wake up feeling anxious or have periods when i am anxious for days and for weeks. If we are lucky, the anxiety begins after a good night's sleep. If not, it happens in the middle of the night or wakes up early and the mental wheels start to spin. We are ruminating in the past and it starts to take on a life of its own. You start to have conversations with yourself, "If only i has done this." or "If only i didn't do that." Accompanied by worries of future uncertainties, "What if this happens? or "What if that happens?" Our anxiety often masks danger as well. After all the people that we are saving or helping or demonstrating our achievements to, begin to look like our persecutors.
4. "I'm a compulsive helper." The ranks of helping professionals, nurses and therapists and volunteers and committee chairpersons are bulging with the guilty people. In reaching out to toehrs we naturally try and give them the love that we so desperately need ourselves. So if we don't know how to love ourselves, any attempts to love others.
Sunday, February 17, 2008
Getting Off Our Buts (The incompletes)
The reason why alot of people are afraid to go past their comfort zones is that they are very risk averse. Risks can fall into a variety of categories. These are:
- Spouse or partner risk. This is sharing what you want or think or feel of your spouse or partner.
- Frendship risk which is hared feelings dealing with unresolved conflict.
- Work or career risk, seeking a promotion or changing jobs.
- Financial risk, setting up a significant retirement programme or investing in something new
- Educational risks, taking classes outside your field or even getting a degree
- Physical risks, climbing a mountain and participating in team sports
- Spiritual risks, making a spiritual commitment and attending a retreat.
- Material risk, purchasing a car or house or letting go of excesses that we may have.
- Emotional risk, dealing with unresolved issues and looking forward.
To have more awareness, ask yourself in which of these categories do you experience the most comfort in risk taking and the most resistance. Then ask yourself, what is the learning here, what does this tell you about yourself? Creating more possibilities for yourself requires you to move outside your comfort zones and new dimensions actually awaken you beyond that wall of resistance that you have set up. High risk = Low risk, Low risk = High risk. Being risk averse creates a lot of incompleteness in our lives. We tend to leave these incompletes open as well. They affect our integrity. They also affect and infect our moral value systems and our belief systems and have a large impact on our lives.
Relationship incompletes are:
- Having unresolved conflicts
- Not showing appreciation
- Withholding forgiveness
- Having importent unexpressed feelings
- Being unable to communicate expectations
- Withholding an apology
- Communicating an untruth
- Having difficulty meeting new people
- Not letting go of damaging relationships
- Not developing intimacy with a special person
- Saying, "i will love that person when......."
Integrity incompletes are:
- Not keeping an agreement
- Behaving differently when the person with whom you have an agreement is not present
- Misrepresenting a product or service
- Withholding important information
Career incompletes are:
- Settling for a dead-end job
- Not developing your talents and skills
- Ignoring educational opportunities
- Doing the minimum just to get by
Financial incompletes are:
- Having unpaid debts
- Not having a retirement plan
- Not having a savings plan
- Not having a college programme for your children
- Not paying off the mortgage
Physical incompletes are:
- Not establishing a healthy diet plan
- Not commiting to a regular diet programme
- Not quitting smoking
- Not dealing with excessive drinking
- Material incompletes could:
- That dream house
- That new car
- Sending those old clothes to goodwill
Personal incompletes are:
- Putting off that decision to have children
- Deciding to have children when you really do not want to
- Avoid setting goals or following through on action plans
- Not clarifying personal missions and values
- Saying "i will love myself when...."
Spiritual incompletes are:
- Putting off this connection some later date
- Dismissing spiritual guidance as unimportant even though an inner voice tells you to be open to it.
Take a look at these lists of incompletes and understand that incompletes have a more significant on our sense of well being than most people are willing to acknowledge.
A real transformation occurs when you shift your vision from the rear view mirror to the windshield. Incompletes have a way of diverting our attention to the rear view as we focus on what's behind us, our past history. Incompletes keep us living in the past while diminishing our present experiences as well. Break this pattern of the incompletes that have demanded so much of your time and attention! Start to move on! Understand that by taking more risks you start to open yourself to new learning and more exciting relationships with others and with new people and new learning and perhaps even nature. Not just nature all around you but the nature that is within you as well.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
My very 1st namecard and Stickers
Today i have received very 1st namecard and stickers. Finally i have felt i have an identity of myself. This is my 1st and only job that i actually wanted to do. Today i have learned from joey that he has made two claims for his friend. Finally i saw some meaning in my job. There are really people who met with accidents and need to make claims. I told myself this is the job i want to be. Even it is a small or big case. My main motto is to have as many people to get insured . You never know when u really need it. when u really need it, it will be too late.
People may think i am using this blog to promote insurance, but my actual meaning is to blog the daily events of my life. I want to write down my beliefs and vision and things that i have learned frm this society. I also hope those who have visited my blog will learn the real importance of insurance and buy frm it. I am also don;t want people to overload with insurance. I want them to be adequately covered with insurance and maintaining the same quality of life. That is my motto.
Anthoy Robbins 2nd lesson.
"Keys to lasting change"
1. Must change
2. I must change it
3. I can change it
The past is not equal to future.
All believes carry with them consequences
Believe is a feeling of certainty about what something mean
"In life, you look for what you look for, seek and you shall find"
Whenever u want to make changes. there must a leverage whereby u yourself cannot take it which will create massive amount of pain if you did not make any changes in your life. Change is never a matter of ability but is a matter of motivation.
therefore we will reach the second step. which it is to interupt the disciplinary pattern. Once u break the pattern that u r always comfortable with, you are able to build in a new habit which will result in the new change u wanted to make at first...
Lastly, we are to create an empowering alternative. We got to reinforce it and become a habit.
Haha, quite poorly wriiten though. but i am still learning. But i believed as time passed, i will write a good system what i learned from anthony robbins.
i will work hard for my exams and hope to do well this time....i believe i can do it!!! Tomorrow i will put in effort and complete my RP and Mso by tml! Richmond gogo jiayou~~!!
oh ya, most imptly of all, i must thanxs my little kawi kawi for setting up a birhtday surprise for me. I am so happie that she actually make a bbq session for me.. I was very touched and fortunate to have such a great gf like her.. I told myself i shower her with more love e next time round~~!!! Dar Dar i love u more~~~!!!!! MUACKS~~~!!!
With love from Richmond to My beloved xiao bu tian, parents, grandparents and bros and sisters
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