Rhythem of Life

Today, i have learned the four essential needs of life. I have leant alot from this book. Called the Rhythm of Life. It turn out to be much more better than i had expected. It taught me four major aspects of life that is very important to us. They are the physical, intellectual, spiritual and emotional sides of our lives. Each category has it's very truthful meaning and taught us that in life, we need to adequately covered these 4 aspects to have a balanced and happie life.

Not only that, it also taught about life. It taught me on how to become the best version of ourselves. Becoming the best u could ever be. The things written down was simple and straight to the point which was why i like it so much. i also liked the way they talked about simplicity,slience and solitude. All these elements are very truthful in our aspects of daily life.

Today i still got alot of my homewrk to go therefore i shall just end here.. On my next session, i shall go into details on what have i learned and how to apply these principles into our life.

Heehee

Today God has answered my prayers. I had always wanted to listen some christian music and by chance, Jiahui has send mi a song that is very nice and i really enjoyed it alot. Last few months, due to my poor discipline, i have yet done my stuffs again. However, recently i been wondering wat have i been doing. Knowing so many theories and yet did not apply anyone of them. For now, i realised in order to accomplish something. U muz do exactly as what u had planned which is essential for you. Whenever i seemed to sidetracked, i always ask myself wat is my purpose in lifwe. My purpose in life is to enjoy fullest of life and spread the love to my kawi kawi, family bro and sister and friends. I told myself in this owrls, u cannot be selfish becoz it makes the world very ugly. I strongly believe in being nice and harsh and the right times too.

next time, whenever i procrastinate, i will tell myself to do it now. I want to establish the habit of planning. Eevryday i must plan for e next day activities, in this way, i am able to stay on schedule and do everything sui sui on time and on target.

These are current my new two preposition in life. That is to be happie, enjoy life to e fullest and do it now.. Heehee....i giggle coz i tink i kinda found the track abt life. It certainly got to take some time then i realised what i was doing. Thank God, thanxs for coming into my life and teaching me the way of life.

I will spread the love around and be the Richmond i can be...Ask and you shall receive. Believe in faith........i love ya guys..~~~

Deadline

Today i have learned a new lesson from the book. It is about deadline. There is something about us humans. We normally will takes things for granted if we knew there isn't any deadline. Therefore, this time i got to apply this new skill by applying deadline in wateva things i am doing, so that everything can be accomplished just on time and right on the spot.

Tomorrow onwards, i will start planning my daily activities and plan hour to hour on each and everything that is supposed to do. In this way, i knew i will not miss out anything and everything would be going according to what i was expecting.

Later in night, i will take my organiser and plan my daily activites. I believe i will achieve the goals and targets that i set for this year. I will achieve it and i definitely achieve it. I am Extraordinary and i have strong faith in me. It's time to change if not when...bcoz i am the unique one!!!!

My beloved little kawa kawi is a brave gal

2 days ago, my little beloved kawa kawi went to golden mile. She has accidentally knocked e car onto the side of the wall. I knew we are going in for deep shit as she needs to fetch her parents at night. I was also at fault as i was e one who asked to drag e car against e wall. I should have been more alm and analysis e situation before making hasty decisions. I felt very bad as my darling got to go through all these ordeal alone. However, i did tried my best to help her solve her existing problems

My little kawa kawi is very brave as she faced all these adversities by herself and so calmly. If i were to strike in this situation, i would have panicked and keep flustering on wat to do and etc. Though she cried in front of her dad, but i can understand it is not easy for such a young gal to go thru it. i was really impressed by her courage. I was very glad that i became her pillar of strength when she needs it the most. I told myself i am willing to protect for e rest of my life, giving her endless happiness and joy. From yest dinner, i could see that her dad is no longer angry with her anymore and she is finally back to her ownself and can slp for very long hours as usual. (My beloved little piggy)

What have i learnt so far? Hmmmmmmmmm....Thought for a few ideas, Recently thought of setting up a newsletter and blogging to promote my insurance sales. And thru cutting of articles and sending of pamphlets. Many ideas been running thru and fro around my mind lately. I decided to take note of them and start applying them asap.

I must have e courage to give ideas and and work in a team. I realised e importance of teamwork. But of coz, it would be best to wrk in a team of at most 3-4 person in a grp. I have e importance of groupwork from reading the book of " How to get ideas" . I have also learned to have more courage in the things i am doing. Being more assertive and giving opinions at the right time and etc. I have learnt that all great ideas came from good or bad. Any idea can become a gd idea. U never noe which is good or bad. For there are many people who are successful based on the so called bad ideas and yet became very successful. Oh well.....

There are so many things to learn and i am progressing each day. Today i tried something diff though. I have showered right on the 2nd list of the day and started doing blogging now. As a result, i have kickstarted today in a great way, now i am focusing on planning my time wisely so that i ccan fully utilise my time wisely and smartly. I won't give up!!! I am going to fight bravely everyday!!!! i love u dad... Thanxs for giving me advice and helping mi to solve brenda's car problem. Without, u, things would not have been solved so easily. Thanxs dad...i love u...so is mum...my granny and my granddad and most of all....my little kawikawi

How to get more ideas (More Inputs)

Today i have finally started blogging. I always ask myself this qns. Y did i always do something so passionately then halfway i will sure give up. Where is it wrong? Is it got to be something or is it just with me? Upon thinking now, i beginning to analyse my daily activities.
I think it is because i never do things according to my plans. Which explains why i always screw up things and always do halfway. I have never successfully finished certain things compltely and will go off do other things which is my freaking problem for e past few years.

These time, starting from today, adapting and applying from what i have learnt. I have decided to take action. Now i will start to plan my daily activities. The problem with mi is that i always plan but i did not do it. Then wat is the freaking point with planning???? When u r not even going to do it?? I beginning to tink it must be certain things that are plan wrongly which is why i am always behind schedule and fail to do things effectively.

Now i have just started to plan my goals for this year. Now i am approaching towards the start of May. Things got to remodify and change again. I got to upgrade and think of new alternatives to progress my personal growth. Everything got to start within myself, if i can't even settle myself properly. How am i going to succeed in wateva stuffs i am going to do.. Starting from this moment, i will start to take actions. Later i will be going to my kawi place and plan with her on how shall we save money for our meals. We have failed to plan and have spurge on expensive meals lately.

Today i learned 2 topics from this very goos book. How to get ideas. Firstly, i have learned to be more observant of the surrounding around me. I will try the techniques of doing different things daily to break my usual routine. If everyday is going to be a rountine, You will observing new things and life will become stagmant and ur brain will not absorb new information. I will try different approaches towards the things that i have done everyday. Including the way i dressed, the way i eat,, trying new cusines, trying new clothings, listening to new type of music, reading different categories of books, watching different types of tv shows. This is the only way to generate more ideas and keep ur surrounding ever interesting and wonderful to learn.

Next, i will learn to be more observant of the surroundings around me. I will bring a notebook around mi whereever i go in the near future so that i am able to note down the new things that i have learned and all record in the book. When it is finsihed, i will just go through the whole book on what i laerned and proceed to writing a whole new brand new book. This is to tell myself that that each day if i am being more observant, i am able to learn so many more things from everywhere. Every where and everything could lead to an great idea. Remeber an idea is combination of old elements which becomes a new one.. Must have faith in yourself. I have decided to notice more about what i have learned from the surrounding and note down whenever i leanred someting from somewhere... i felt so good after expressing myself in this blog...All e best and cheerios!!!!

Time is wasting away. Buck up Sire!

I just went to the 3d 2n course at Johore. It was a mind terrifying and horrible experience for me but it was also the most learned seminar for me. Perhaps he has instilled fear in all of us which made mi more fearful of him and would listen to his comments and etc. Throughtout this seminar, i have learned many things from him. I felt the lost of my family, the need to fight and struggle everyday.
i have learned to become an extraordinary person. In order to be extraordinary, u nid to do things that are different from others. U need to be a leader and make swift decisions and always think of solutions to solve yours problems.
i have also learned to let go of my past and move forward, in this way only i can progress to my achievements and goals that i want to achieve. i have learned many theories and have not yet posted in the computer for future referencing.
today i would give a brief note of wat i learned and would not go so detailed abt what i have actually learned from there. This is because there are so many things to say and simply a blog will not be able to finish everything so swiftly.
Today i have finished something. And i would be doing mos of all e things i wanted to do...This is because i want to achieve my goals and targets.....for e society and the 6 most impt areas of my life....
I shall go into dept abt what i learned in the course in e due days to come.... love my family, friends bro and sisters and most imptly of all..my beloved kawikawi and granny

1st day of resurrection

Today, i shall quote from anything from the books i have learnt, but today i will just share some of the inner feelings from my heart.

Today, i shall resume my goal setting which i had left it in discard since March. I shall start planning my programs later on. Still got 2 things to do before departing to my beloved Sui Mak Mak house for our lovable movie session.

That time, i realised i have lost alot of opportunity with leng and von. It is becoz i did a very poor presentation and was really damn ill-prepared. I was considered lucky that leng would still buy the insurance policy from me. Given outside ppl, i dun tink anyone wld wanna buy any insurance frm me liao lor. However, i have learnt from my mistake, no matter hw big or hw small a client is, i must be prepared at least 3 days in advance so that my client can have a better understanding and i can have more confidence in my speech as well. From leng exp, i missed One case from yvonne. It was really a pity. But i told myself, i will not repeat the same mistake again and would do a better presentation each time i meet up with a prospect. Thank you leng and von....i will do my best to serve you.

Next, i would like to keep up with my goal setting because i have been quite slack with it. I still have a wager with lim ker yen and i wld not wanna lose it. I will replan everything later on and plan my strategy well. With a well-planned strategy, i am sure to achieve my goals and targets for as long as you believe in it.

Today, i would like to share on the experience i had in changi hpsital lately, because Kawi kawi's dad got a "Er Sui Bu Ping Heng" and was feeling really very dizzy and keep vomiting. Kawi kawi and I was really worried. As a result, We brought him to e hospital and consult a doctor. the moment when my kawikawi, told us that e doc diagnosed that Micheal may suffer frm mild stroke and needed to be warded for observation, all of us were stunned. For that time, all of us did not knew wch hospital ward is suitable and all were so loss. At 1st, i thought it was gonna be very serious therefore i suggested to take e b1 ward as it may take very long. Luckily, it turned out to be a quite a minor case. The bills come up to $300 plus just for consuiltation and warded for one day and i finally felt e importance of SHP and total shield. Imagine with just having this 2 policy combined, U nid not worry abt admitting into hospital shld anything bad to happen upon ya. I have seen the importance of insurance and i would use this to tell to my clients the importance of the insurance. I can finally understand y so many ppl wun wanna go for better doctor due to e lack of funds and i tink insurance is the better way out as it is cheaper. There are many ppl who thinks that insurance is just a waste of money but when u expectedley faced an unfortunate incident, u wld really see e importance in it. I told myself, i will sell SHP and Total shield as my main priority.

That day, i was glad i went to attend MR Jian Hong seminar. I learned a great deal of things from him and would share the things i learned frm him the next session. Heehee, i got to rush and settle my stuffs fast!!! gopt a movie to catch!!! LOve Family, Kawikawi!!!! Friends and Clients!!

A beautiful Quote from Morrie

" So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they are busy doing things they think are important. This is because they are chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and maning."

Adapted From Tuesdays with Morrie

Guilt

There are several expressions of unhealthy guilt that a person may feel and i shall list the common ones and i'm sure some will ring a bell for you. Please be gentle with yourself in recognising these within yourself. It is not an invitation for you to criticise yourself and feel more guilt. Rather, it is an invitation for awareness and the connection that you must have with love and free chioce that it affords in you and in others as well. So it is in your best interest to take a look at yourselves a little bit less seriously and perhaps even with a little bit of characteristic humour.

1. One expression of unhealthy guilt is when you say, "I'm overcommitted." Taking on more than any human being can reasonalbly accomplish is a common characteristic of unhealthy guilt. We have too many projects and too much to do and not enough time. It is a cause of stress and is fed by the difficulty that we have in saying no perhaps to our own needs and to other people's expectation of us. Furthermore, over-commitment is an addiction that keeps us anaesthetised to the anxious and empty feelings that will inevitably surface if we are left alone without distractions. So over-commitment is a way for us to avoid our pain. It blocks the process of recovery for us.

2. Another expression is, "I really know how to worry." When you start worrying about even the most common of things, it is basically 'awfulising" a common event. This immediate escalation of any small event into a world class catastrophe is what we talked about when Albert Ellis called it "awfulising". the most amazing feature is that little or no objective evidence is required to come to conclusions of unprecented gloom and doom. This kind of worry is the outer projection of our innermost fear and that of our own distraction. Without the knowledge of love, fear is that remains. We can never feel safe.

3. I often wake up feeling anxious or have periods when i am anxious for days and for weeks. If we are lucky, the anxiety begins after a good night's sleep. If not, it happens in the middle of the night or wakes up early and the mental wheels start to spin. We are ruminating in the past and it starts to take on a life of its own. You start to have conversations with yourself, "If only i has done this." or "If only i didn't do that." Accompanied by worries of future uncertainties, "What if this happens? or "What if that happens?" Our anxiety often masks danger as well. After all the people that we are saving or helping or demonstrating our achievements to, begin to look like our persecutors.

4. "I'm a compulsive helper." The ranks of helping professionals, nurses and therapists and volunteers and committee chairpersons are bulging with the guilty people. In reaching out to toehrs we naturally try and give them the love that we so desperately need ourselves. So if we don't know how to love ourselves, any attempts to love others.

Getting Off Our Buts (The incompletes)

The reason why alot of people are afraid to go past their comfort zones is that they are very risk averse. Risks can fall into a variety of categories. These are:

1. Spouse or partner risk. This is sharing what you want or think or feel of your spouse or partner.
   
2. Frendship risk which is hared feelings dealing with unresolved conflict.
   
3. Work or career risk, seeking a promotion or changing jobs.
   
4. Financial risk, setting up a significant retirement programme or investing in something new
   
5. Educational risks, taking classes outside your field or even getting a degree
   
6. Physical risks, climbing a mountain and participating in team sports
   
7. Spiritual risks, making a spiritual commitment and attending a retreat.
   
8. Material risk, purchasing a car or house or letting go of excesses that we may have.
   
9. Emotional risk, dealing with unresolved issues and looking forward.
   

To have more awareness, ask yourself in which of these categories do you experience the most comfort in risk taking and the most resistance. Then ask yourself, what is the learning here, what does this tell you about yourself? Creating more possibilities for yourself requires you to move outside your comfort zones and new dimensions actually awaken you beyond that wall of resistance that you have set up. High risk = Low risk, Low risk = High risk. Being risk averse creates a lot of incompleteness in our lives. We tend to leave these incompletes open as well. They affect our integrity. They also affect and infect our moral value systems and our belief systems and have a large impact on our lives.

Relationship incompletes are:

1. Having unresolved conflicts
   
2. Not showing appreciation
   
3. Withholding forgiveness
   
4. Having importent unexpressed feelings
   
5. Being unable to communicate expectations
   
6. Withholding an apology
   
7. Communicating an untruth
   
8. Having difficulty meeting new people
   
9. Not letting go of damaging relationships
   
10. Not developing intimacy with a special person
    
11. Saying, "i will love that person when......."
    

Integrity incompletes are:

1. Not keeping an agreement
   
2. Behaving differently when the person with whom you have an agreement is not present
   
3. Misrepresenting a product or service
   
4. Withholding important information
   

Career incompletes are:

1. Settling for a dead-end job
   
2. Not developing your talents and skills
   
3. Ignoring educational opportunities
   
4. Doing the minimum just to get by
   

Financial incompletes are:

1. Having unpaid debts
   
2. Not having a retirement plan
   
3. Not having a savings plan
   
4. Not having a college programme for your children
   
5. Not paying off the mortgage
   

Physical incompletes are:

1. Not establishing a healthy diet plan
   
2. Not commiting to a regular diet programme
   
3. Not quitting smoking
   
4. Not dealing with excessive drinking
   
5. Material incompletes could:
   
6. That dream house
   
7. That new car
   
8. Sending those old clothes to goodwill

Personal incompletes are:

1. Putting off that decision to have children
   
2. Deciding to have children when you really do not want to
   
3. Avoid setting goals or following through on action plans
   
4. Not clarifying personal missions and values
   
5. Saying "i will love myself when...."
   

Spiritual incompletes are:

1. Putting off this connection some later date
   
2. Dismissing spiritual guidance as unimportant even though an inner voice tells you to be open to it.
   

Take a look at these lists of incompletes and understand that incompletes have a more significant on our sense of well being than most people are willing to acknowledge.
A real transformation occurs when you shift your vision from the rear view mirror to the windshield. Incompletes have a way of diverting our attention to the rear view as we focus on what's behind us, our past history. Incompletes keep us living in the past while diminishing our present experiences as well. Break this pattern of the incompletes that have demanded so much of your time and attention! Start to move on! Understand that by taking more risks you start to open yourself to new learning and more exciting relationships with others and with new people and new learning and perhaps even nature. Not just nature all around you but the nature that is within you as well.